Today is the day to stand on the rooftops and scream your sexual affiliation. National Coming Out Day (created in 1988) was originally intended to allow those of gay and lesbian persuasions to shock and awe their friends and families in an open display of non-male + female relationships. However, this year I have seen more and more people “coming out” as poly-amorous. Now, we poly people don’t want to step on the toes of our gay and lesbian brethren and take away from their hard fought battles to be recognized as equal in marriage and respect. Though as the acceptance of gays and lesbians has begun to gain traction in the United States with the legalization of gay marriage on the national level (passed by the Supreme Court in 2015), perhaps we can begin again to include those of us who live on the outside of the social norm.
I have seen a lot of discussion on the Internet (yes, “Internet” is a proper noun) regarding the sanctity of marriage and comparing homosexuals to, horrifically, beastiality. “WHERE WILL IT END?!” cries the sexually repressed social conservative. These types of people gasped in horror when interracial couples walked into the grocery store together. They also gasped when they saw that Bill and Juan were holding hands and not “just roommates”. They grumble when they hear about transgenders wanting to use the bathroom… What happens when these people hear that there are some of us who love and maintain multiple relationships at once? Will this be the straw that breaks the back of the social conservative? How can they handle yet another transition to a family dynamic that destroys the nuclear family of America?
Pay no attention to the divorce and cheating that runs rampant in “nuclear families” already. Can America handle another dynamic change?
Some people believe that “the gays” and “those selfish sluts” (because they don’t know what to call a poly-amorous person) are running rampant in today’s society because of a breakdown in morals that seems to go hand-in-hand with the expansion of the Internet. However, homosexuality and polyamory is not new! Guys, after I “came out” to my mother about being poly-amorous, she sighed and said, “Well, your grandmother was the same way. She had a lot of ‘gentleman friends’.” *record scratch* What? I was bowled over. You mean that this existed back in the 50’s and 60’s? (She probably had to endure all sorts of gossip, ostracization, and judgment. I wish she were still alive so I could ask her about her experiences.) So while social conservatives are in disgust about the “breakdown of society’s morals”, they don’t seem to understand that what they view as selfish social anomalies are actually interactions that have been hidden for centuries.
So instead of shaming those who live their life a little differently, perhaps we can hold onto each other a little more tightly and say, “Hey, good on you for recognizing your true self and having the courage to shout it to the world.” Because face it, this world needs a little more love in it.